What do you want to be remembered for?


What do you want to be remembered for? What will people miss when you are gone from their lives?
What is it that you do for others, that you bring to their lives that will make them pine for your presence?
Do you take the time to connect with people? To enjoy the relationships that have been formed? Or are you too busy with the things that seem to be important but are, in truth, transient?
When you are gone from the lives of those you love, what will they remember about you, about your time with them? Are you presently an intrinsic part of their lives or have you left them to carve their lives & time around your absence? Do you have a role other than the financial provider? A role which is not to be trivialized but frankly can be filled by anyone with the means to do so - brutal but true.

We go about our daily lives in a manner that we do not see. We are deeply engrossed in the day to day struggles of survival and chasing after the things we want, bogged down by the depressing negativities that we constantly encounter that we do not often take the time to enjoy and appreciate what we actually have - the people whom God has put in our lives to bring us joy.
We do not make the time for family and friends - we are busy, understandably so, making a living to let our families live a better life and expect understanding from those who care about us.
We either ignore or throw money at problems - a child needing attention is given a new toy; a spouse wanting simple conversation and companionship is given a bauble or ignored.
The nurturing of friendships is neglected in favour of more lucrative "business-ships"- after all, na "friendship we go chop?" Sacrificing our relationships on the altar of "making a living".
And so we go on, till one day, we are, for a variety of reasons, in need of companionship of our spouse, children or friend and we find that they have fashioned a life separate from us; a life that completely excludes us and accommodating our need is just not an option for them. And we are hurt, bewildered, baffled. How can this be, we wonder. After all, everything we do/have done, all our hard work is/was for them. Was it? Was it really?
Many of us have found a balance of sorts while the rest of us do not believe there is a balance or that it is asking too much of us.
It is these people I ask again "What do you want to be remembered for?"

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