My last post was almost three years ago. No, it's not because I am dead, thank God. I have just been taken over by life. Let us say I have been dealing with different "life's curveballs" and a total "blogging block" resulting from a shut down of emotions from dealing with them!
Last year, my family said goodbye to a brother - he was easily and without question the best of us. The traits of niceness and kindness God bestowed upon him made me feel that He had spent extra time during Deji's creation. To say we miss him would be making light of the enormity of the size of the hole his departure created in our lives. It is difficult to recover from the curveball of the death of a loved one.
Marriage is tough, no? I bet many "marrieds" have asked themselves at least once if the institution isn't overrated. It's like a rollercoaster ride where the riders THINK they're securely strapped in and even when the rides turn you upside down or seem to be sliding backwards, you cannot fall off. Unfortunately, the straps are not that secure, you do fall off and many times, getting back on isn't an option or something you want to do (at least not on that same ride, lol!)
Kids grow up and my babies of then are now in boarding school. Many have called me brave, others have said - to my face - that I am mad/crazy/wicked to have sent both my children to barding school before they turned 21! If I thought of myself only, they'd have been homeschooled, wrapped in cotton wool and shielded from the world. But, I love my kids dearly and so they need to experience the real world. Their being away from home simultaneously gives me more time and no time as no sooner do I drop them off than it is time to go visit them or or pick them up again.
So, I have not been blogging. Maybe now that I am more settled into the chaos of my lifestyle, I can resume writing. Hopefully, my emotional shut down will end and things will be back to normal.

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  1. Cathese23/8/21 1:21 am

    I feel you. I encourage you to start blogging again

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