I haven't blogged for almost 15 months! Many things I haven't done in that time either but I won't go into that, Lol!
About to start my day. A typical day in the life of a SAHM - "Housewife" to my fellow humans who have no clue as to what "SAHM" means. I prefer the term SAHM - an acronym for Stay At Home Mom. It sounds less dull and busier than "Housewife," don't you think?
I have a million things to do before my household wakes up. A million things to do for ME and my sanity!
- Respond to mails, plan the logistics for the children's day/week, ensure that there's enough diesel for the week (does ANYONE have electricity in Lagos?) and that the generator has no problems. Make a mental note to call the inverter maintenance guy - my gut tells me there's something not quite right with the dratted thing. Today is Monday - laundry should be done today but that will be at night when the generator comes on!
Go through the pantry and decide if a trip to the supermarket is necessary. Just realized I have no chicken in the house - quick text to my frozen foods supplier.
Ensure my daughter's homework is really done like she said it was (I'm scared of her teacher accosting me in school and with a stern face and voice saying "Madam, we have not been doing our homework"). Do my son and daughter have their glasses in their bags - have not seen them in a while. Ah, is today swimming or P.E.? Have they been practicing with their musical instruments?
What is hubby having for lunch?  Where's the food menu for the week - oh dear, forgot to print it out! Speaking of printing, printer has run out of ink - where on earth did I put the ink cartridges I bought last week?? Did he say he was going on a trip this week? Mental note to self - ask about that. What functions do we have to attend at the weekend?
My distance learning course assignment is due this week and I am not even halfway through! (Distance learning ke? Yes O, person get to keep the brain active!) Oh God! I was supposed to call my Mom & sister yesterday and I didn't! Sigh - set alarm on my phone to do that (they are in a different time zone so can't deal with that right away.) I have to update my online diary - under a pseudonym of course! 
Birthday messages to be sent out today. I have to deal with some documentation at the Registrar's office - what day of the week will be convenient and what time?

And the list goes on. I know many people think being a SAHM is a leisurely life, but it is not. Sure, we probably have more time than most but "leisurely" it certainly isn't. I have "worked" and as much as I miss the income it brought and the financial independence it afforded me, I don't mind this life much. I may not be rich or be able to afford the expensive jewelry, designer wear and accessories my contemporaries are almost always decked out in but I am fairly happy, my blood pressure is a constant 110/65 and 
Sounds like someone with no ambition right? yeah, yeah, whateverrrr! And, being a SAHM doesn't mean you don't "work" or have no ambition - many SAHMs have home-based businesses, or other sources of income.
People hear you don't work and they ask if you have no ambitions or aspirations. "Don't you want a career? Don't you want to have a business?" they ask either incredulously or condescendingly.
Well, my ambitions are MINE and not the ambitions others have for me or expect me to have. My ambitions may not be mainstream or expected but, they are MINE. I greatly admire those women who juggle businesses, wifely & motherly duties. Their ambitions are theirs, not mine or yours, and your ambitions most likely will not be or work for another.
Someone - Einstein, I think - once said to be "yourself" because everyone else is taken. That resonated deeply with me. I truly believe a person should be oneself and nobody else. I don't want to be the person OTHERS THINK I should be or want me to be. I don't want to give up who I am. Call me selfish, self-centered, even naive, but that's me. I am myself, I am unapologetically me.
I know, I know, "if person dey craze for inside and e know, e no suppose try normal?" Yeah, well, how did that work out for the victims of serial killers? Killers wey "form" normal so police and neighbors no know say dem dey craze till family or neighbour dog dig up the human bones for dem backyard?
If person craze and e quick show im craze, everybody go know say e craze nah and avoid am or catch am put for mental home. Victims minimized, abi?

Anyway, my point is, live YOUR life, be YOURSELF. And while doing that, be the best you can be.

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