Sex? Love? Porn?
I'm curious.
Not too many adults will admit - at least not in polite company - to watching or reading erotica or porn. Why is that? Does erotica or porn (the nomenclature is dependent on the point of view; My Mom feels Victoria Secrets Lingerie catalogs are "a bit pornographic," Lol!) serve any positive purpose or not? SHOULD it serve any purpose? Is it meant to be a dirty little pastime, hidden from even your partner (how do you know that said partner doesn't have the same...erm...reading preferences?) Or can it serve as a handbook or guide to, ahem, greater heights?
I suspect many people would like to act like they do not have sex or that they even like sex, especially members of the feminine gender. In some dim, long past age, a woman who dared to be honest or open about her liking the sexual act was branded a hussy, shameless, useless and, of easy virtue!
Ever notice how a lot of adults - even the married - act when a sexually explicit scene comes up in a movie being watched in the company of acquaintances or not-too-close friends? An unnatural stillness settles over everyone. Silence suddenly comes upon the watchers who had previously been chatting easily or commenting upon some scene in the movie. Some avert their eyes, others look vaguely embarrassed. A few giggles may escape the lips of some less shy soul. But the general atmosphere is one of slight embarrassment. Why?
Is it because many believe it is supposed to be a private act, done in the bedroom, in darkness or semi darkness and/or under the sheets. I agree that it should be private and that it is a private act - PRIVATE, not dirty.
Some women, especially the married ones, like to think that sex should be occasional (some believe it should only be procreational - poor things) and not really to be enjoyed.
I'm curious as to how it became a perceived" bedroom only act" - why should sex be had only in the bedroom? Is it written anywhere? I have not come across such literature or instruction if it so exists. Is it because the bedroom is private? Okay, but what if there are only the two people in the house - do they have to go to the bedroom to "do it," even if the urge comes upon them while, say, in the kitchen? And why would people be shocked at a couple having sex during the day or with the lights on? Mind you, these same people may not find anything wrong with a day time tryst with a married lover or other "under-G" canoodling.
And, why oh why do the fairer gender equate sex with love?
Let us be honest, sex is a biological function that probably is better when there is affection, but probably still fun without it. It serves the same need as food, shelter, warmth.
Confusing or equating the sexual act with love has been the cause of many-a-broken heart.
My humbly arrogant opinion!
Have a great week everyone.
Not too many adults will admit - at least not in polite company - to watching or reading erotica or porn. Why is that? Does erotica or porn (the nomenclature is dependent on the point of view; My Mom feels Victoria Secrets Lingerie catalogs are "a bit pornographic," Lol!) serve any positive purpose or not? SHOULD it serve any purpose? Is it meant to be a dirty little pastime, hidden from even your partner (how do you know that said partner doesn't have the same...erm...reading preferences?) Or can it serve as a handbook or guide to, ahem, greater heights?
I suspect many people would like to act like they do not have sex or that they even like sex, especially members of the feminine gender. In some dim, long past age, a woman who dared to be honest or open about her liking the sexual act was branded a hussy, shameless, useless and, of easy virtue!
Ever notice how a lot of adults - even the married - act when a sexually explicit scene comes up in a movie being watched in the company of acquaintances or not-too-close friends? An unnatural stillness settles over everyone. Silence suddenly comes upon the watchers who had previously been chatting easily or commenting upon some scene in the movie. Some avert their eyes, others look vaguely embarrassed. A few giggles may escape the lips of some less shy soul. But the general atmosphere is one of slight embarrassment. Why?
Is it because many believe it is supposed to be a private act, done in the bedroom, in darkness or semi darkness and/or under the sheets. I agree that it should be private and that it is a private act - PRIVATE, not dirty.
Some women, especially the married ones, like to think that sex should be occasional (some believe it should only be procreational - poor things) and not really to be enjoyed.
I'm curious as to how it became a perceived" bedroom only act" - why should sex be had only in the bedroom? Is it written anywhere? I have not come across such literature or instruction if it so exists. Is it because the bedroom is private? Okay, but what if there are only the two people in the house - do they have to go to the bedroom to "do it," even if the urge comes upon them while, say, in the kitchen? And why would people be shocked at a couple having sex during the day or with the lights on? Mind you, these same people may not find anything wrong with a day time tryst with a married lover or other "under-G" canoodling.
And, why oh why do the fairer gender equate sex with love?
Let us be honest, sex is a biological function that probably is better when there is affection, but probably still fun without it. It serves the same need as food, shelter, warmth.
Confusing or equating the sexual act with love has been the cause of many-a-broken heart.
My humbly arrogant opinion!
Have a great week everyone.
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