Everything & Anything

Listening to Michael Jackson's "Heal the World" always makes me question if I am doing enough to give back - making the world a better place, so to speak. Every day, we see and sometimes meet people who are in need - financial, emotional, psychological. Every day we walk past or ignore these needy fellow members of the human race. We look away hurriedly, sometimes guiltily. We give the less fortunate a passing thought if they are lucky, sometimes remembering to be thankful we are not in that condition, other times not caring really. After all, it is not your fault that they are not as fortunate as you are, is it? I believe in "passing it on" - God has blessed me, and He needs me to bless someone else. I believe in it, but I do not always do it. For various reasons - I'm feeling selfish, I am not in a good place at that particular time and thinking "I too need help nah!" or I am being a bit judgmental... various reasons. But, I believe. I believ...

Change. Some of us firmly believe that people can change, that we can change others in our lives. Others believe that humans can't really change. There are some who waver between these extremes. Everyone who makes New Year Resolutions or Birthday resolutions is a believer in the possibility of change. After all, are resolutions not about changing something about your person? Me? I think humans are  capable  of change. By "capable" I mean that humans possess the  ability to change if they so wished.  Whether they will or wish to or believe they can change is an entirely different thing. Change cannot be superficial or just external - it has to come from within to be sustainable and/or permanent. Wanting to go from a US 14 dress size to a US 6 dress size is certainly doable - diet & exercise or even liposuction/nips & tucks will get you there. But, if you have not internally decided to change your way of life, of thinking about food and chosen to ALWAYS ea...

Hey everyone. I have been fighting a bout of the flu so, just able to do Part 2. I hope Part 1 helped someone! So... Air travel used to be such fun for me. I would take the most convoluted route possible so I could visit as many airports possible, buy a fridge magnet for that country (after all, technically, I have visited that country nah! so what if I did not leave the airport?) and wander through the airport shops wondering how Murtala Muhammed Airport would look all glommed up. It also helped me decide which airports to avoid, by the way. Like Charles de Gaulle Airport - cold as a frozen hell! That was way back when, before the 9/11 Twin Tower attacks. That day heralded a change in airport travel processing that simultaneously made air travel safer and extremely bothersome. Travelling in the cold months is the worst - you're all bundled up, you know? And then at airport security, you're undressing. Everything comes off. I knew, at the beginning, that what they'd ...

Today, my baby turns eight. I still have vivid memories of her as a baby. A baby who, even then was very strong willed, who made her displeasure known very loudly. She made me know that babies could get angry. That they too had emotions and mood swings. That babies did not just eat, poop and sleep. From the first moment, the bond between us was profound. I know they talk about fathers and their daughters and mine has hers lovingly wrapped round her little finger, but my daughter and I have a connection that is certainly heaven-sent. She knows, even when I try to shield her from my moods, she knows when I am sad, hurt or upset. As a baby, she would just snuggle in my arms and stare into my face, cooing quietly, as if to say "Don't worry Mummy, I'm here." As a toddler, she would just hug me and kiss me and say "Okay Mummy?" much the same way I'd hug and kiss her when she was upset. Now she comes to me and says "Don't be sad Mummy, okay? I love...

It's that time of the year. Vacation time! Yayyy!! Or is it "Oh No!"? Many of us will be boarding flights to some destination, where we hope to get some rest, relaxation and peace. Hope to. For mothers of young children, that may be a vain hope. Especially since many of our daddies seem to have meetings that prevent them from traveling on the same day with us. Or even when they are with us, they are conveniently seated away from the action hub! Convenient, yes? Beginning with the flight from home, we are already frazzled. Excited children, bored children, badly behaved children. Our children belong to one or more of these categories. Travelling with young kids can be trying but the stress can be minimized, believe it or not. I remember being so terrified at the thought of traveling with my two and a half year old daughter and her 14-month old brother that I spent a whole day researching ways to minimize the stress and prevent toddler meltdowns! I knew my daughter wa...

Do you know where you're going to? Do you like the things that life is showing you? Where are you going to? Do you know? Do you get what you're hoping for? When you look behind and there's no open doors. What are you hoping for? Do you know? Diana Ross asks those questions in one of her songs. The song makes me wonder if I really know where I am going. And if and when I get what I'd been hoping for, is it what I really wanted and if it is not, is there a way of going back (when you look behind and there's no open doors - YUP!!) I must say, personally, I no longer have a definite idea of where I am going to. I used to though. I can say I know where I WANT to go, but that I KNOW for sure? I cannot say that, not anymore. See, we have all these plans for ourselves, for our lives, for our loved (and unloved, heh heh heh!) ones. Go to school (or get an education - different from going to school o!) get married (or not), have kids (or not), be rich (don'...

Excerpt from a BB Group I'm a member of: WHAT A WEEK!  *************** ● Adultery is legalized in South Africa by the Constitutional Court ● Gay marriage is legalized by the U.S.  Supreme Court.  ● Germany’s National Ethics Council has called for an end to the criminalisation of incest between siblings after examining the case of a man who had four children with his sister.  ● Japanese court rules"Adultery is Ok if its for business  purpose!" ALL IN ONE WEEK! I find these turn of events and our reactions to it interesting.  Below is my post and views on the matters. Nothing is new under the sun! Let's begin with incest - it is wrong. The Bible forbids marriage between siblings I believe. However, after the Biblical flooding and cleansing of the earth, the earth had to be repopulated by an incestuous relationship so.... For the Gay matter, again, ain't nothing new under the sun. Everybody knows of Sodom and Gomor...