Change.
Change. Some of us firmly believe that people can change, that we can change others in our lives. Others believe that humans can't really change. There are some who waver between these extremes.
Everyone who makes New Year Resolutions or Birthday resolutions is a believer in the possibility of change. After all, are resolutions not about changing something about your person?
Me? I think humans are capable of change. By "capable" I mean that humans possess the ability to change if they so wished. Whether they will or wish to or believe they can change is an entirely different thing.
Change cannot be superficial or just external - it has to come from within to be sustainable and/or permanent. Wanting to go from a US 14 dress size to a US 6 dress size is certainly doable - diet & exercise or even liposuction/nips & tucks will get you there. But, if you have not internally decided to change your way of life, of thinking about food and chosen to ALWAYS eat healthier, to exercise regularly and more, that drop in dress size is going to be temporary.
We probably have things we want to change about ourselves but have not succeeded in changing. Maybe we have not fully committed to it, comprehended the extent of the need to or, as my people will say, "condition never critical"! We often change after a crisis arises, do we not? - that intended change that seemed so hard is forced upon us and then the transformation occurs.
Or, there are people around us that we would like to or, believe we can change, for the better (or for the worse? for who says changing them the way we think is for the best?). If you are in this category - those who believe that they can change others by sheer dint of your will - I would like to say Good Luck for I am yet to see where a person truly changes just because someone else wants or tries to get them to.
We try, very hard too, to get a person to change, right? We talk, cajole, encourage, threaten - we use every means at our disposal and weapons in our arsenal to attempt to bring about this desired change.
And are so often frustrated by the seeming stubbornness of the subject!
Truth is, I think, that change, no matter how little, has to be a personal choice and decision, not someone else's.
But, I think change is possible. And, by the way, a leopard does change its spots - the baby leopard's spots morph into a different and more distinct and peculiar spots. :)
Everyone who makes New Year Resolutions or Birthday resolutions is a believer in the possibility of change. After all, are resolutions not about changing something about your person?
Me? I think humans are capable of change. By "capable" I mean that humans possess the ability to change if they so wished. Whether they will or wish to or believe they can change is an entirely different thing.
Change cannot be superficial or just external - it has to come from within to be sustainable and/or permanent. Wanting to go from a US 14 dress size to a US 6 dress size is certainly doable - diet & exercise or even liposuction/nips & tucks will get you there. But, if you have not internally decided to change your way of life, of thinking about food and chosen to ALWAYS eat healthier, to exercise regularly and more, that drop in dress size is going to be temporary.
We probably have things we want to change about ourselves but have not succeeded in changing. Maybe we have not fully committed to it, comprehended the extent of the need to or, as my people will say, "condition never critical"! We often change after a crisis arises, do we not? - that intended change that seemed so hard is forced upon us and then the transformation occurs.
Or, there are people around us that we would like to or, believe we can change, for the better (or for the worse? for who says changing them the way we think is for the best?). If you are in this category - those who believe that they can change others by sheer dint of your will - I would like to say Good Luck for I am yet to see where a person truly changes just because someone else wants or tries to get them to.
We try, very hard too, to get a person to change, right? We talk, cajole, encourage, threaten - we use every means at our disposal and weapons in our arsenal to attempt to bring about this desired change.
And are so often frustrated by the seeming stubbornness of the subject!
Truth is, I think, that change, no matter how little, has to be a personal choice and decision, not someone else's.
But, I think change is possible. And, by the way, a leopard does change its spots - the baby leopard's spots morph into a different and more distinct and peculiar spots. :)
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