Of Relationships Past.
Remember when you thought you'd never get over the heartbreak? Someone just took your heart and trampled all over it and they just did not seem to care and you just could not understand why they could be so cruel.
You'd sit around for days, so sad and miserable, listening to the sad and slow love songs that went on and on about unrequited love or heartbreak and you just KNEW your life would never be the same again, and that you could never love again.
Now, fast forward to the present. You are sitting in the car and the radio is tuned to your favourite station and they're playing old, familiar songs and on comes a song. It's vaguely familiar and you're humming along, occasionally mumbling part of the lyrics. Then comes the chorus and your memory gets the jog it needs. WOW! It's that song you played over and over when......what was his/her name now? Temi? Teni? Tope?.... broke up with you. And you laugh out loud, really amused and HAPPY!! Because it has just dawned on you - you DID get over it; you HAVE loved again - several times over, in fact; you are married/settled/in a relationship now, and give or take some bumpy times, you are not some heartbroken, emotionally ruined person! You cannot even recall the name of the heart-breaker. Is life not great???
Okay, some of us still remember. Some of us never got over the heartbreak and have allowed it to colour our lives and define every subsequent relationship we've had. We are distrustful and cynical; but we expect to find happiness and KNOW in our hearts that we would be happy if we were with that person we cannot have!
Some of us still remember and have refused to forget because that experience helped us tremendously in avoiding the heart-breakers, leading us to the great people we are with now.
Some of us still remember and are not afraid to reminisce and smile at the foolishness of our youth.
And all of us, in all these categories, wonder what our lives would have been like if we had not had our hearts broken but stayed with those people.
Some of us probably think our lives would be different and better.
Well, I will say this - it's just my opinion. Our lives certainly would be different, yes. But would it be better? Yes, we would not have this present set of relationship problems - we'd just have a different set! And all the good things about your present relationship circumstances? Those would be non-existent.
For me, for every relationship I had that ended with me upset, I had a song. I have only two songs. Actually, it's one - the other was for when the other party was upset but I had to listen to it once when I got a taste of my own medicine!
Lionel Richie's song that starts with "Are You Feeling Down & Lonely?"...Aha, many of you know that song, yes? Love Will Find Away. It's by far the best song to help a broken heart heal.
The other is "Don't Take It Personal" by Jermaine Jackson. From the first time I heard the song till now, I believed and believe that every human needs to ABSORB the message in that song. That life goes on and that everything comes to an end and that neither of these are about you - it's just the way life is and it's nothing personal!
You'd sit around for days, so sad and miserable, listening to the sad and slow love songs that went on and on about unrequited love or heartbreak and you just KNEW your life would never be the same again, and that you could never love again.
Now, fast forward to the present. You are sitting in the car and the radio is tuned to your favourite station and they're playing old, familiar songs and on comes a song. It's vaguely familiar and you're humming along, occasionally mumbling part of the lyrics. Then comes the chorus and your memory gets the jog it needs. WOW! It's that song you played over and over when......what was his/her name now? Temi? Teni? Tope?.... broke up with you. And you laugh out loud, really amused and HAPPY!! Because it has just dawned on you - you DID get over it; you HAVE loved again - several times over, in fact; you are married/settled/in a relationship now, and give or take some bumpy times, you are not some heartbroken, emotionally ruined person! You cannot even recall the name of the heart-breaker. Is life not great???
Okay, some of us still remember. Some of us never got over the heartbreak and have allowed it to colour our lives and define every subsequent relationship we've had. We are distrustful and cynical; but we expect to find happiness and KNOW in our hearts that we would be happy if we were with that person we cannot have!
Some of us still remember and have refused to forget because that experience helped us tremendously in avoiding the heart-breakers, leading us to the great people we are with now.
Some of us still remember and are not afraid to reminisce and smile at the foolishness of our youth.
And all of us, in all these categories, wonder what our lives would have been like if we had not had our hearts broken but stayed with those people.
Some of us probably think our lives would be different and better.
Well, I will say this - it's just my opinion. Our lives certainly would be different, yes. But would it be better? Yes, we would not have this present set of relationship problems - we'd just have a different set! And all the good things about your present relationship circumstances? Those would be non-existent.
For me, for every relationship I had that ended with me upset, I had a song. I have only two songs. Actually, it's one - the other was for when the other party was upset but I had to listen to it once when I got a taste of my own medicine!
Lionel Richie's song that starts with "Are You Feeling Down & Lonely?"...Aha, many of you know that song, yes? Love Will Find Away. It's by far the best song to help a broken heart heal.
The other is "Don't Take It Personal" by Jermaine Jackson. From the first time I heard the song till now, I believed and believe that every human needs to ABSORB the message in that song. That life goes on and that everything comes to an end and that neither of these are about you - it's just the way life is and it's nothing personal!
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